Taking Bugsy to the vet

28 11 2009

Up in the mornin’
Out on the job
Work like the devil for my pay
But that lucky old sun got nothin’ to do
But roll around heaven all day.

Fuss with my woman, toil for my kids
Sweat till I’m wrinkled and gray
While that lucky old sun got nothin’ to do
But roll around heaven all day

Katia and I took Bugsy to the vet today.  For those who don’t know Bugsy, he is our 17.5 year old Bischon Frise.  He was a terror for the first 16 years of his life but now old age is beginning to kick in.  His right eye has been getting worse each day to the point that some mornings when he wakes up it is completely shut.  There is a lot of discharge and gunk in there and while Mom does her best to clean it out, it’s clear it is not going to heal itself.

Bugsy began shivering the moment we got into Katia’s car.  Whenever he gets put into a car, he believes he is going to the saloon for a grooming, his idea of hell.  We hadn’t made an appointment so when we arrived at the Lisner Animal Hospital, we were asked if we could wait for a short while before a vet could see Bugsy.  We walked him in the parking lot and that seemed to calm him down a bit, although walking for him now basically means he walks in concentric circles which is his new favorite move, given his almost complete lack of vision.

After fifteen minutes we were in the dog version of the patient’s room.  A warm, cheerful vet introduced herself, and after just a brief glance at Bugsy’s eyes, said she believed it was due to an affliction known as dry eye.

Katia trying to calm a restless Bugsy

Katia trying to calm a restless Bugsy

She asked if she could carry him to the back and we of course agreed, but not before Katia warned her to put a muzzle on Bugsy as he wasn’t too fond of places like this.  The vet said she was already aware of this as Bugsy’s medical record specifically states ‘Requires muzzle.’

We waited in the reception area and to kill time we each got on our iPhones to find out what was going on in the rest of the world.  I learned that Ben Roethlisberger would not be playing this week and therefore I was going to have to find a last-second substitute quarterback for my fantasy football team.  Not good.  Two weeks ago I was sitting pretty atop of the league and now my chances of making the post-season are quickly slipping away after two subpar weeks and now this bad news.  Katia got a funny text message from a friend which she shared with me.  Our laughter was interrupted by the sound of the dog/patient’s room door opening.

We both sprang up off the bench, iPhones in pockets and rushed over to get the news.

Doctor visits are tense moments for all species

Doctor visits are tense moments for everyone involved

Katia’s initial reaction to seeing Bugsy’s snout covered in blood was, understandably, of shock.  She gasped as her hand went to her mouth.  Then she breathed a sigh of relief when she saw the red was actually the color of the required muzzle.  We approached the vet and she explained that he does indeed have dry eye and that we would have to apply this eye cream twice a day to both eyes, as well as eye drops to the eye with the discharge.  Even with a muzzle on this would be a challenge as Bugsy has never, ever liked holding still while someone is trying to do something to him, whether it is cutting his hair or God forbid, putting on his ugly sweater circa 1995.

She applied the cream to show us how it was done, which entailed holding his snout still while he wrestled to break free and at the same time squeezing cream onto his eyes.  The whole time I saw this I was thinking “yeah right, we are never going to muzzle him every day, twice a day, just to apply this stuff.”  It hasn’t been a day yet so we’ll have to wait and see how we do on that front.

Part of the reason is that we have always been very sensitive to Bugsy’s whining and discomfort and the moment we sense he is uncomfortable or in pain, we tend to avoid continuing what we were doing.  He is treated more as a member of  the family than an animal and his steady diet of human food would definitely attest to that.

She mentioned that they had also cleaned out his ears which involved cutting away a lot of hair and removing loads of ear wax.  Whatever they did back there, Bugsy seemed to have much more energy than he normally does these days and he was moving quickly around the floor of the dog/patient’s room.  And the ultimate sign that he was in good spirits: his tail was up and wagging!  Up until a year or two ago, his tail would always be up as he was going about his day.

Bugsy showing off his ugly sweater

Bugsy showing off his ugly sweater

Now, his tail is always hanging down.  It is so rare to see it otherwise that when we saw it today we both exclaimed to each other “oh my God, his tail is wagging!”  The vet must think we are the most easily amused family in Michigan.

 

More good news: she said Bugsy’s heart and lungs were doing just fine and it was just his eyes that were faltering.  His diminished hearing was to be expected as was the beginning of senility.  Great.  And she  confirmed what we already knew which is that he is veritably blind as both eyes have full blown cataracts.  Poor dog.  We asked whether it would help to put a cone around his neck to prevent him from bumping into objects.  Thankfully, she said it was a very bad idea, claiming that as long as we didn’t move furniture around too much, he would eventually grow accustomed to moving around.  What she didn’t mention but that we all knew to be true was that his dignity would be irreparably damaged if he had to wear a cone around his little neck every moment the rest of his life.

After getting a few more to-do-at-home instructions and thanking the vet, Katia carried Bugsy out to the car while I went to the counter and paid the $120 it cost for the checkup and the medication.  As we get into the car, Bugsy is no longer shaking.  Instead he is making for the backseat where he immediately falls down to the foot area behind our seats, moving from side to side.  He was moving with new energy and it was  great to see.

Unfortunately, the reason why he was moving around so much was not good.  We take him home and he begins moving restlessly from place to place, all the time trying to rub his eyes (or ears?) on something.  Katia panicked and said she thought the eye cream might be burning him or something.  We never did determine for sure if that was the cause but just the suggestion of it took it from possible cause to probable cause.  She called up the vet and they said to bring him in again, but that we should hurry as they were closing in five minutes.  We rushed out to Katia’s car, and this time, Bugsy did begin shivering once again.  He must know when we’re heading out and when we’re heading home.

Another vet had to unlock the door for us and right away she whisked Bugsy from us, just saying “I’ll take him to the back.”  When she returned less than five minutes later, she didn’t say what she had done to him.  She handed us a new cream to replace the one we had received earlier, claiming that he may have had a reaction to an ingredient in the first cream.

We’ll have to see how he reacts to this stuff.  Or if it was the cream at all.

The sun has been hiding for the past week but today it decided to make itself seen.  Although the temperature was still below comfortable, the sight of the late autumn sun was too tempting not to be outside.  A short while after we returned home from our second trip to the vet, I took Bugsy and his ugly sweater on a grand walk, down the sidewalk by our home, into Southwick homes which connects to our subdivision about half a mile in and then back home.  It was a solid 45 minute walk and amazingly he managed to walk it all himself.  He would do this weird thing where he’d tug on the leash and I’d turn to see him just standing in place, eyes directly facing the sun.  I think he was actually able to see something and he was enjoying it.  After a couple of moments I’d tug his leash again and say “C’mon Bugs” and his little legs, half-hidden beneath the red rings of his ugly sweater would rev into rapid motion again.

We used to play this game years ago where we’d guess how many times Bugsy would pee during a walk.  The winning number was always greater than ten as he would stop to paint practically every rock, mailbox, fire hydrant we passed, even if it was just leaving behind a drop or two.

For whatever reason, he seems to have lost all interest in that activity as his total for this walk was zero.  His hind legs have become weaker and he doesn’t even lift his leg to pee any longer, instead just doing this newfound squatting pose.  Or maybe he’s just given up trying to be macho and painting every mailbox and fire hydrant he passes.  Or maybe he just can’t see them.

I like to think that he’s just matured and he realizes that in the end what really matters is not how many times you leave your mark, but whether or not you are able to go on the walk.  Even if you have to wear an ugly sweater to do it.





Home Cookin’

24 11 2009

Country roads,

Take me home,

To the place,

I belong,

West Bloomfield, Michigan,

Good ol’ suburbia,

Take me home,

Country roads

Before I began my trip I told myself I would not plan things too far in advance and so would allow myself to be open to different options when they appeared.  That makes me a hard person to travel with for many people but when you’ve got an open schedule the last thing you want are commitments to weigh you down.  In March I booked my ticket from Jakarta to Bangkok the morning of.   In October I booked my ticket to Jordan two hours before the flight, and consequently got extra curiosity at airport security.  And the same thing is what brought me home.  As I went to bed one night in Aleppo, a beautiful and old city in northern Syria, I just felt like I would rather be at home.  I wanted some home cooked food and to hang out with my family and friends.

I decided to sleep on it and see how it felt in the morning.

After breakfast and walking around the old city, I found myself at an internet café for over an hour, catching up with the world and fantasy football and reading a humorous email exchange about my good friend Mahk’s upcoming wedding.  His name is actually Mark but being from Boston he pronounces it Mahk.  And that’s pretty much what confirmed my decision.  I couldn’t think of a better way to come back home, seeing college friends at a wedding.  I fired up Skype, called United Airlines and half an hour later I had a confirmation number in hand.

As with any big decision I’ve ever made, I kept asking myself if I didn’t royally screw up.  I still had plans to go to Turkey and Armenia and Lebanon.  I had planned to stay a full calendar year abroad.  But I felt the adventurous spark which I had had the whole trip just wasn’t there any longer, where every little thing would jump out and draw my attention.  Now pulling the camera out of the bag was a bit of a chore.  So all those other places are just going to have to wait.  Sorry guys.

And just to hedge my bets, I booked my ticket with an open return to Frankfurt so I do have a foot in the door to head back.  Just in case…

Even the bags are ready for a break

Even the bags are ready for a break

Take me home BMI

Take me home BMI!





Smoking a Hookah on Syria’s Border

3 11 2009

Salaam wa alaykum

Wa alayka wa’salam

(A common Arabic greeting and response)

The Lonely Planet says it is impossible to enter Syria without obtaining a visa beforehand from within your home country.  But I had heard so many great things about Damascus and the rest of Syria that I decided I was going to try and get in overland sans visa.  I put my chances of success at about 10% given that I had met one American traveler who had managed to get a visa at the border that included a four hour wait.

I left my hotel in Amman early in the morning and found a shared taxi that was going all the way to Damascus.  The catch is that they only will wait one hour at the border and if I hadn’t gotten my visa by then he would continue without me.  That was the least of my worries.  I just wanted to get into the country.  The transportation I could figure out after.

I exit Jordan with no problem, especially since they demand $7 USD to leave the country.  By the way, what is it with these exit fees?  It is like paying admission to see a football game but before you can leave you have to pay.  And if you don’t pay, then you have to stay.  If you overextend your stay then you have to pay.  WTF?  Why not just include it in the visa because you know I am going to leave anyway?  At least it’s not as bad as Israel where it is $50 USD to leave.  Ouch. 

As we approach the Syrian border, I see the Syrian flag and a smiling picture of Syrian President Bashar al-Asad welcoming us.  My heart starts racing.  Even though I imagine that the worst that could happen is I get turned around and head back to Jordan, I can’t help but feel that I need to be cautious.  It is not unlike the feeling you get when you see a police car in your rear view mirror.

My driver assures me that he knows people in customs and can get me in super quick but I need to slip him $10 so he can grease the right hands.  I approach the counter and hand my passport and visa form to the official sitting on the other side of the window who looks like he hasn’t smiled since OPEC rocked the world almost 30 years ago.  My driver walks up to the window and asks if he can speed things up.  The official stands up and gives him a tongue lashing and tells him to take a seat.  So much for knowing the right people.  The official asks me how many days I want to stay in Syria.  I ask how many days visa I can get.

He growls back at me “You tell me!  How many days you want in Syria??”

I meekly reply “Can I go for 30 days?”

He says nothing, writes something down, and then tells me to go sit.

Twenty minutes later I am sitting, waiting and my driver tells me he is leaving because my process is going to take a while.  I am furious because I realize I have been had for the extra $10.  I’m not sure he even gave it to someone, or if he did it was only to speed up his process.  In either case, my driver is now gone and I’m at the border wondering when or if I will ever get through.

Half an hour later a different official, this one with a permanent half smile, maybe a smirk, on his face asks me to approach the counter.  I am excited.  I may be getting in super quick.  But it is not to be.  I had listed my occupation as “Engineer” on the form and he asks me what type of engineer I am. 

“Computer Engineer.” 

“Okay.  Please go wait.”

I decided to press my luck a bit with this new, nicer guy.  “How long do you think I will wait?”

He half-chuckles.  “I don’t know.  One hour, two hours, maybe ten hours.  Please wait.”

There is a big notice near the entrance of the customs office that kindly tells you that if you have any complaints to please put your complaint in the Complaints Box.  Humorously there is no Complaints Box in sight.

One American guy is denied entry because there are remnants (remnants!) of a sticker on the back of his passport, which is where Israel places a sticker upon entry.  It is completely forbidden to enter Syria and Lebanon if you have been to Israel before.  No questions asked.  You have a better chance of starring in the next James Bond movie than you do of entering Syria or Lebanon with an Israel stamp in your passport.

But things would get much better.  I met a Jordanian-American family who were also waiting for visas and they invited me to the café with them.  There we were joined by three American college students, Margaret, Katie and Aftan who are studying a semester in Jordan and are hoping to go to Damascus for the weekend.  All of us in the same boat, just waiting and hoping.  Everyone orders some coffee, tea or a snack.  I see hookah is on the menu and of course I order one.  I can’t imagine there are many border crossings in the world where you can order a hookah while you are waiting and I’m not about to pass up this opportunity.  Tammy, the American wife, has brought enough bread, mustard and luncheon meat to feed the Syrian army and she graciously makes all of us sandwiches.

It begins pouring outside and then all of a sudden all the power goes out.  Great.  This certainly can’t speed things up.  I envision all the computers shutting down, smoking and the visa office not being able to process anything the rest of the day.  Two minutes the later the lights flicker back on.  This power-off-then-back-on would continue the rest of the time we were there.

After a couple of hours we head back to the customs office and the smirking official tells us to follow him to another building.  This is progress.  We walk into a building and are greeted with a familiar sign telling us that if we have any complaints to please put them into the Complaints Box.  Again, there is no Complaints Box in sight.  I can imagine anyone asking about where the Complaints Box is would be swiftly turned back to Jordan with a big REJECTED stamped onto their passport.

I am motioned to a window where I hand over my passport and my entry form, and the guy asks me to pay $16 USD.  I can’t believe it.  I am getting the visa!  Yeah!  We all pay and get our passports stamped.  When we are out of ear shot of the officials we have a quiet celebration with subdued trillings while Ahmad, Tammy’s husband, calls out “Can I get a hell yeah?!”  He just learned that a few days earlier at a concert he had been to.

Tammy, Ahmad and their children drive off on their own while Margaret, Katie, Aftan and I find a taxi to take us to Damascus.  We drove for ten minutes before I felt comfortable breathing a sigh of relief.  We were in.  Four hours and $16 later we were in Syria.  Take that Lonely Planet! 

Goodbye Jordan - a new adventure awaits

Goodbye Jordan - a new adventure

An old Lada taxi cab

An old Lada taxi cab

My three zowjahs (wives) pimping a classic old car

My three zowjahs (wives) pimping a classic old car





Chopping vegetables in the desert with Shakira

3 11 2009

Ya se que no vendras
Todo lo que fue
El tiempo lo dejo atras
Se que no regresaras
Lo que nos paso
No repetira jamas

“Tawfiq, Shakira!  Shakira!”  Tawfiq was my given desert name during my ten days living and working in the Wadi Rum desert in the very south of Jordan, and it means “Good Luck”.  Shakira was the music of choice of Mahmoud, the only other worker at the Sunset Camp.  Sunset Camp is one of many outfits that organize tourist expeditions into the Wadi Rum desert, with most of the attractions having a story related to Lawrence of Arabia who inhabited these lands for some time.  In the evening, the tourists are brought to a campsite in the desert where they watch a brilliant sunset and after are served dinner.  The next morning breakfast is served and then all the tourists are whisked back to the village, around 15 km away.

My job was to help Mahmoud with his work which consisted of making breakfast and dinner and cleaning up the tents after the guests left.  Mahmoud is from Kharthoum, Sudan and he came to Jordan to work for a year where he can earn more than back home.  In his ten months that he’s been at Sunset Camp, Mahmoud has not had any music, not even Celine Dion’s “My Heart Will Go On” on his mobile phone like everyone else in the Middle East regrettably seems to have.  So when I first put on my iPod with speakers in the kitchen while we were cleaning up after breakfast he began dancing while mopping the kitchen.  I knew I was on to something.  I cycled through several different artists to try to get a feel for what he liked and Shakira was a clear winner with Michael Jackson and the Gypsy Kings also a big favorite.  I soon realized that my real value in this camp was to play iPod DJ for Mahmoud. 

In exchange for my chopping vegetables and DJ’ing, I got a tent, food and the rest of the day to myself.  From our campsite the desert sprawls on endlessly in every direction and some days I would head out for a few hours long trek in a new direction.  I’d return by lunch time where Mahmoud would have cooked up a lunch of eggs, bread and an addictive Sudanese desert made with short noodles and a whole lot of sugar.  Sugar in large quantities seems to be a requirement in all Sudanese cooking, especially when making tea.

After lunch, during the hottest time of day, we’d take a foam mattress each and head up to a nearby mountain for the midday nap.  In a shady nook on the west face of the mountain we’d put our mattresses down, cover our heads with bed sheets to keep the flies away and take a nap with the wind keeping us cool and not a sound to be heard.

There is no power in the campsites so no tv, no radios and so some days I would head over to nearby campsites to hang out.  Sitting around and chatting over a cup of tea is the primary means of entertainment in the desert.  I got to know the guys at the nearby campsites pretty well including a good friend I made Rakan, aka Ricky Martin, as he was so lovingly named by Andrea and Tracey, two great travelers who made the campsite really fun the one night they were there.  You should have stayed another day!

In the late afternoon the tourists begin appearing at the campsite ready for the sunset, and it is time for me to chop some vegetables.  I probably chopped a couple hundred cucumbers, tomatoes and potatoes in my ten days while I left all the real cooking to Mahmoud.  He seemed more than happy with the set up.  As long as Shakira was in the kitchen with us.

Wadi Rum desert

Wadi Rum desert

Mahmoud and I

Mahmoud and I

Ziyad and Rakan, aka Ricky Martin

Ziyad and Rakan, aka Ricky Martin

Very randomly I met the #4 body builder in the Middle East who is taking time off to work in the desert.

Very randomly I met the #4 body builder in the Middle East who is taking time off to work in the desert.





Happy Home Nepal

25 10 2009

In the past I have been accused of writing really long blogs and this blog post is probably no different.  But this is an important post and so I will include a brief summary at the start if you don’t have the time to read it all.

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I had the opportunity to volunteer at the Happy Home Nepal orphanage in Kathmandu, Nepal this past August and September.  There are almost twenty children in the orphanage and they are from various villages and cities of Nepal and their ages range from 3-12.  Although I have since left Nepal, I want to continue helping Happy Home by raising awareness of this charity to friends and family in the hopes that more than a few of you donate to this wonderful charity. You can read more about Happy Home on their website http://www.happyhomenepal.org where you can also make a donation.  Nepal is one of the poorest countries per capita on the planet so even a little money goes a very long way.

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Happy Home Nepal was started in 2006 by a young Nepalese couple, Bishwa and Puja. They began with contributing financially to poor families to help their children be able to go to school. They soon found that there were children who were in need of much more than this and shortly thereafter they began bringing children into their home to live with them.

Fast forward three years later and they now have 18 children living in their orphanage which is also their home, and they have recently rented another home that will house 15 street children, exclusively girls, of which they have already identified and rescued 4. In addition to the orphanages they support 10 single mothers living with their 35 children in a rented house in Kathmandu and they continue assisting children in villages throughout Nepal by contributing to the children’s school fees. Government and private schools both cost money in Nepal and whenever possible Happy Home tries to enroll children into private schools. The quality of education is much higher and the classes are all taught in English which is a very important language to know in Nepal as a large part of the country’s business is based in tourism.

Pema in her former work and home, and now in Happy Home

Pema in her former work and home, and now in Happy Home

A lot of what I did while I was at Happy Home was helping the children with their homework and finding ways to keep them busy in creative ways which is not always easy.  But they made it easy as they were always up for trying something new. And in the evenings we would all settle in for the nightly ‘movie night’ where we’d all crowd around my laptop and watch any of a number of Disney and Pixar cartoons. We must have gone through at least 20 movies while I was there, of which the top favorites were “Snow White”, “Sleeping Beauty” and “Ice Age”. Any movie with a detestable bad person or a newborn baby was an automatic crowd pleaser.

The 18 children in the Happy Home orphanage range in age from 3 to 12 with 6 boys and 12 girls. Before being rescued by Happy Home, several of the children worked as child laborers in the fields in the surrounding mountain villages or at construction sites and with no future to look forward to as they were not attending school. A couple of the children spent an extended period of time in the hospital to get unhooked from their glue sniffing habit before they were able to live in the orphanage. Several were street children as their families simply abandoned them and they had nowhere else to go.

Sushil and his sister Sunita; pre-meal prayers; Sushila's chalk art on the roof

Sushil and his sister Sunita; pre-meal prayers; Sushila's chalk art on the roof

Despite this gloomy background the environment in Happy Home is anything but that. When I first arrived I was greeted by 3 year old Bishant who stretched out his pudgy arms in an offer to be carried. I noticed the little stream of snot running out of his nose but even so it was an offer I could not refuse. It was little things like this that made my original plan to visit for just half a day extend into a several week stay. Many of the children were quick to open up while others took some time before they got comfortable. The profiles of all the children are on the website and you can read more about their backgrounds there.
The children are enrolled in a nearby private school and every morning I would walk them to school and each afternoon at 3 p.m. I would walk them back. While they were in school I got a chance to go back to my technology roots and began revamping their website http://www.happyhomenepal.org. There is now a way to donate through the website as well as a new volunteer application form. The first day we went live with those we not only got a donation but also a volunteer from Ireland. Yeah!

Pasang in her former home; punching the camera; getting a haircut

Pasang in her former home; punching the camera; getting a haircut

There are two live in helpers, Devi and Asmita, who do a yeoman’s job of cleaning and cooking the best daal bhat, a traditional Nepali meal of rice, lentils and vegetables, and insisting you take second and third helpings.
Bishwa and Puja have very big aspirations for Happy Home which includes rescuing every last child off the streets of Kathmandu. This is a lofty goal given the poverty levels in Nepal but as Bishwa told me, the only thing stopping him from doing it is not having enough resources. He has many friends who have joined him in his efforts and he is backed by a small army of volunteers, donors and supporters from across Europe and the States.

Please consider helping Happy Home with a financial donation (through the Donate button on the website), or a donation of clothes or books or other things that your children have outgrown and are just taking up space in your garage. And if you know anyone who will be traveling through Nepal, be sure to let them know about Happy Home. They can stop by to visit and teach for the day. But they should be warned; they may end up staying for much longer than that.

Bisant; movie time!; in their schoolday best

Bisant; movie time!; in their schoolday best

If you are a teacher and you are interested in doing a Pen Pal program with the children of Happy Home, let me know. It would be great for them to start meeting children from around the world. Or if you have any other ideas for establishing some dialogue between the children, please let me know.
Even if you decide you cannot donate to Happy Home right now, I strongly urge you if you do not already have one to find a cause or two that you believe in and help them out. There are many causes and charities that need help and the value of the Dollar and the Euro goes a long way in developing countries so even a small contribution can make a big difference.
I will leave you with some pictures of the Happy Home children:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/emileb/sets/72157622317455086/





I was a pregnant snail

1 10 2009
carry me caravan
take me away
take me to portugal
take me to spain
andalucia with fields full of rain
i have to see you
again and again

Carry me caravan

Take me away

Take me to Portugal

Take me to Spain

Andalusia with fields full of rain

I have to see you

Again and again

Now that I’ve been on the road for a year, I figured it’s a good time to take stock of what I’ve been lugging around. Surprisingly, I have very little of what I began with. I began my journey with my 70 liter Jack Wolfskin backpack fully loaded and that was supplemented with a 30 liter bag that was equally full, although that was mostly due to the dozen cans of Guinness beer I was taking as a gift to my friend Vivek in Chennai. Who knew that in one of the biggest cities in India you would not be able to buy Guinness, or really any other imported beer?

The bulk of my luggage was trekking gear for the two treks I was going to do in Nepal. I had a super-ultra warm sleeping bag, a pair of Vasque boots that took up an incredible amount of space, a fleece, thick trekking socks and many other cold weather items. Traveling with all this gear is not a lot of fun. You’re basically immobile and putting all that stuff on and off trains and buses is a real pain. According to a travelers’ newspaper in Cambodia I would be classified as a pregnant snail, which is when you are carrying one big backpack on your back and a smaller one on your front. I knew early on that I had way too much stuff and so I’ve been shedding weight throughout the trip and now I’m traveling with just one very manageable bag.

Thanks to international shipping via low-cost-and-slow-delivery sea cargo and faster-but-costlier air mail I’ve been sending packages home from India, Nepal, Indonesia and Thailand. Total weight sent home is now between 40-50 kgs, almost 100 lbs. And thanks to the “you don’t really expect all of your things to make it home do you?” shipping service lottery from India, the actual weight that will be delivered to my parents’ home will be about 10 kg less than that.

So what’s left from the original cargo? Here’s the list:

  • Jack Wolfskin backpack – I’ve had this bag for ten years and taken it everywhere and I have to hand it to those Germans. They really know how to make a durable bag.
  • North Face pants – these are the MVP of the trip. They double as shorts and I’ve worn them just about every day for the past year. I have worn them on five long distance treks. They were khaki upon initial purchase but are now a rugged gray color thanks to washing them with a new pair of black boxers.
  • Helly Hansen thermal shirt – this is a super durable long sleeve thermal shirt that I’ve worn during treks and as an under layer on cold nights. Amazingly it is still white and even survived a three year old expressing his artistic side on it with a blue marker. If you do any hiking in cool weather, you might want to pick one of these up. They’re about $30.
  • H&M long sleeve shirt – simple, basic brown shirt that I wear when it’s cold.
  • Blue American Apparel tshirt – a super comfortable tshirt. Thanks Sophie!
  • Green tshirt – I bought this in Paris four years ago and it’s an all-time favorite.
  • Green rugged shorts – they’re just about done
  • White lightweight long sleeve shirt – I hardly wear this but somehow I’ve still kept it
  • Five boxers – somehow my boxers are super durable and I haven’t yet had the need to buy a pair of knockoff Calvan Klain boxers.
  • White running socks – they are no longer white but they are still socks
  • A toiletry bag that I got from the Lucent medical department when I worked there back in 1997. Who would have guessed the bag would outlast Lucent?
  • A packet of twelve sewing needles that I have yet to use even one of. I brought them along in case I got any blisters while trekking. Now that I think about it, even when I did get a blister I didn’t use them.
  • Gillette Sensor shaving handle – thanks to the kind people at Gillette it is possible to buy replacement cartridges anywhere in this world and in case you’re wondering, they are ridiculously overpriced everywhere.
  • A pen from the New York New York casino in Las Vegas – I don’t even remember packing this pen but it somehow found its way into my backpack. On a down note, I lost my Xythos space pen somewhere in India. Bummer.
  • My iPhone – One of the neatest things for traveling. It’s a music player, it’s a Skype phone, it’s a web browser, it’s an alarm clock, it’s an emergency camera, it’s a movie player for the long journeys, it’s a currency converter, it’s a game center (chess and Simon are big hits) and if you get it unlocked it’s a mobile phone in every country you go to. And it’s always a conversation piece.

And that is all that is left from the original contents of my backpacks. If I made a list of what I no longer am carrying with me that would be about ten times as long as this; books, bags, hammocks, sleeping bags, boots, clothes and basically just about anything else a family of four would need to live comfortably.

I have since added a few new things to my cargo like new shirts, an MSI netbook (a small very portable laptop) and my rather big Nikon SLR camera which was graciously shipped to Bangkok for me by Thad who emerged victorious after another battle of storage-unit-Jenga.

I must admit that even though I have whittled down my cargo to just the one backpack, I do still get backpack envy when I see someone travelling lighter than me.

But at least I am no longer a pregnant snail; I am now just a regular old snail.





Trekking in Spiti Valley

27 07 2009

I remember when
I remember
I remember when I lost my mind
There was something so pleasant about that place
Even your emotions have an echo in so much space

After getting enlightened from hearing HH Dalai Lama speak for three days in Kaza, I went for a short three day trek in the surrounding mountains. I said good bye to my new temporary family over chai and croissants at the German Bakery and then began my hike up the imposing, bare mountain immediately behind Kaza.

Komic from above

Komic from above

I left my huge 70 liter backpack in the Ecosphere trekking office and set off with a small backpack and my camera bag. In addition to what I wore I brought along a long sleeve thermal, a fleece jacket, basic toiletries and my iPhone.

As I did when I trekked in Nepal, I found out as much info as I could from the locals about what to expect and general directions, then headed out sans guide or porter. It’s much more of an adventure this way.

Chemso, the monk in my Komic homestay

Chemso, the monk in my Komic homestay

I’d much rather be on an open road without someone guiding me or waiting for me to catch up, even if it does mean getting lost from time to time which happens to me A LOT. I have done a half dozen treks sans guide on this trip and in each one I have gotten lost at least once, and usually on the first day.

This trek began with the hardest part of the entire trek. Once I left Kaza, I zigzagged my way up the mountainside, climbing 900 meters in two hours. It was a steep climb right across the face of the bare mountain on a gravelly trail. I was expecting to see many people on the trail, spill overs from the Dalai Lama talks. I saw not a soul on the whole trail except for a ten or eleven year old boy on his way back from school.

Once I reached the summit, I was greeted by silence and a family of wild blue sheep off in the distance who had taken an interest in this new being that had just emerged in their presence.

Blue sheep on the horizon

Blue sheep on the horizon

Blue sheep are quite rare and used to be in danger of extinction because of snow leopards and wolves, but since those populations began decreasing the blue sheep have flourished. They are always wild, never domesticated and would seem to have pretty good lives. They’re not really blue, more like a lightish gray, and they look more like goats with deer horns than sheep. Other than that, they look totally like you would expect a blue sheep to look.

My first destination was Komic, a tiny village of 13 households and a population of 84 whose name literally means ‘eye of a snow cock’. Nestled in a small fertile valley at 4513 meters elevation, Komic is one of the highest villages in Asia and its monastery, the Komic Lundup Chhemo monastery, is one of the world’s highest at 4587 meters.

The children of Komic village

The children of Komic village

I was feeling good from reaching the summit and from here on it would be mostly flat or downhill. I took out the iPhone, scrolled to the ‘Dance Your Ass Off’ playlist and started up the tunes. But they clashed big time. The setting was too serene, quiet, peaceful for anything too intense. So I put the iPhone on shuffle and as it usually does, it made an awesome playlist.

First song, “Crazy” by Alice Russell, a diva-ish/gospelesque cover of the Gnarls Barkley track. Then another cover, this time by Jose Feliciano, of The Doors “Light My Fire”, done in a moody jazzy tone. And to top it off, the “Om Mane Padme Hum” mantra started up which is probably the most fitting song given the setting and the fact that HH Dalai Lama had just conducted an initiation of this mantra the day before.

I reached Komic an hour or two later. I stumbled upon a woman and her daughter working in the potato fields and asked about a hotel. She didn’t understand me. A bedroom? She didn’t understand that. Homestay? Yes! That was the magic word to remember. Homestay. Everyone in the valley seems to know two English words. Homestay and shortcut, and they’re both important to know. When someone is giving you directions, they will say ‘Shortcut’ and point to a path off the main road. Very useful.

As it turns out she had a homestay herself. A homestay is as the name says: you stay with a family in their home. They cook your food, make you tea, you hang out with them if you want, you hide out in your room alone if you want.

The goats' pen outside my bedroom

The goats' pen outside my bedroom

Just like home. My room had capacity for five or six people and I had it for myself. A queen bed and cushions and low tables in an L-shape in one corner of the room. They brought me a fresh bucket of water to wash up and a basin to rinse into. And of course, no homestay or even just a home visit would be complete without the chai. That’s what I love about India. You are always greeted with a chai when you visit someone’s home, even when you’re just stepping into someone’s shop and you’re going to be there for a bit. They’ll bring you some chai. There’s something very welcoming about it.

I put my stuff down in my room then went for a walk through the village. It was more like a short climb up to the gompa (monastery). There are no roads within the village, just well-worn dirt paths. Komic is connected to the rest of the world via a dirt road a couple hundred meters up the hill, although I don’t recall seeing any cars driving on it. You can sense that not much changes here.

Yaks in the field

Yaks in the field

Families live off the land, growing their own vegetables, typically peas, potatoes and onions, bringing in rice and daal (lentils) from the bigger villages below. The eldest son is raised to eventually run the household, taking care of his parents in their later years. Subsequent sons are sent to monasteries to become monks. The family I stayed with had three sons and two daughters. The second and third sons were home for a short summer break before they returned to Dehra Dun to continue their studies. The women in the family do a lot of the field work, tending to the crops and then cooking and cleaning the house.

It’s impressive seeing how they use the resources available to them. A basic water system is set up, piping fresh, cold water from an uphill stream to all the crops and to the homes. Cow dung is highly valued as it is used for cooking fire, which saves on burning wood. Even the bathrooms are super eco-friendly.

Eco friendly toilet

Eco friendly toilet

It’s a squat toilet that deposits into a pit a couple meters below, but instead of flushing with water, you simply shovel some dirt into the hole. The deposits below are eventually taken out to the fields and used as fertilizer. I was half-expecting the bathroom to smell like some other basic bathrooms I’ve used before, but surprisingly the only smell here was of the dirt piled around the bathroom to be shoveled into the deposit.

The homes themselves are quite an impressive achievement. Built from clay, they are extremely durable and many of them have been around for hundreds of years. The rooms are quite basic and non-descript but the big wow factor comes in below the ground floor. On my way to the toilet I noticed a staircase descending into a black darkness below. After shoveling dirt into the hole, I ventured down the stairs along with Chemso, the youngest of the two monk sons.

Precious cow dung

Precious cow dung

Down here is where they live most of the winter. There are bedrooms and another kitchen down here, and a storeroom for trunk loads of rice and grains (barley is very big in the valley). Even the animals have a home down here. Cows are kept in a large room, separate from the goats in the room next door and separate from the yaks which are in another room nearby. Each room is stacked high up to the ceiling with hay and yet another room is filled to the ceiling with the precious cow dung. Interestingly, the yaks aren’t around much during the summer. They’re out roaming in the hills and at just before winter the families will go out and bring them home. I asked Chemso how they know where to find the yaks if they’ve been roaming around for months. He laughed and said you just go walking and bring them back.

The major religion in Spiti Valley is Tibetan Buddhism and most homes have a worship room that is solely for their spiritual practice. In the worship room in Komic, they had faded thangkas (finely detailed religious paintings) that must have been hundreds of years old.

Sutras from the worship room

Sutras from the worship room

On a shelf nearby was rows upon rows of the sutras (Buddha’s teachings) written in Tibetan, bound in a wooden cover and covered with thick layers of dust. I was amazed to see such beautiful pieces in a home. These would be prime displays in any museum on Buddhism but here they are commonplace to each household.

In the evening I had a traditional thali dinner, which consists of rice, daal (lentils), subji (cooked vegetables) and chapati. It is always served on a metal plate with four different compartments. And the best part of thali dinners is that it is all you can eat. So if you really like the subji or you want some more chapati to wipe down your plate, all you have to do is ask. And of course no meal would be completely without the customary post-meal chai.

I woke up the second day to the bleating and mooing of goats and cows being freed from their pens to start another day of roaming and grazing in the nearby fields. The elder sister had prepared a tasty breakfast of omelette with a couple of chapatis and chais.

Mules on the trail

Mules on the trail

I found it hard to leave as I was quite comfortable and relaxed. As we were chatting around breakfast, Chemso took an interest in my music and I figured I’d impress him by playing the “Om Mane Padme Hum” mantra. I may just as well have played nothing and would have gotten the same reaction. I figured now would be a good time to bring out “Dance Your Ass Off”, put on a Rihanna song and then he started rocking out, smiling and bobbing his head sitting there at the table. Even monks like some good old American pop music. Who knew. By the way, there is a really bad internet virus going around now spreading Rihanna’s songs on people’s hard drives. That must be how that song made it onto my iPhone.

Around noon I figured I should probably head out and get started on my journey. Chemso walked with me outside and directed me to the shortcut beyond the gompa and through the hills, avoiding the main road.

It was a five hour walk to Demul, the village I planned to stay in that night. The sky was cloudy in the morning and by noon it still hadn’t cleared up. I could tell it was going to be like this all day. It’s perfect weather for trekking as once you get started walking, then you don’t need so much to stay warm.

Cow lazily chewing and watching me walk by

Cow lazily chewing and watching me walk by

At one point it did begin to rain very slightly and I decided that if worse came to worse and I had to get some shelter, my best bet was to sneak into a cow shed off in the distance. Luckily the rain let up after not too long and some cows were spared giving up their bed to a guest.

The trek was relatively flat or slightly downhill as Komic is one of the highest villages in the valley. The trail is mostly walking across valleys, trying to not venture too far down because you’ll have to climb up and out on the other end. But sometimes you have no choice and you get all the way down and find the driest way across the small stream running there. There isn’t much opportunity for shade so it was good that the sun was hidden most of the day. Otherwise, it can get very hot very quickly at this altitude. All it takes is a cloud to get out of the sun’s way and ten seconds later you feel the scorch of the sun on your neck.

I didn’t see another person until just before reaching Demul. I had the mountains to just myself, and of course the animals too. Yaks, cows and goats are the most prevalent ones up here.

The green fields of Demul

The green fields of Demul

I came upon a valley of yaks where there must have been over fifty yaks grazing while up in the hills a few stray yaks must have found the climate more suitable up there. One yak decided to join the group down below and so started making his way down but before long his weight was just too much to go slowly and he broke off into a mad run, kicking up an enormous cloud of dust behind him.

If you’ve never seen a yak they can be quite intimidating. They are absolutely huge, bigger than a cow and draped in thick shaggy fur with large pointed horns. And they are always staring at you which can be a bit discomforting when you see one blocking your path and you need to make your way around him. But they’re so chill, they just stand there and stare at you, probably wondering what the big rush is as everything you could possibly need is here, mountains, cool weather and endless green fields.

Just before reaching Demul I bumped into a twenty person trekking group and as it turns out they are all American first year college students on a ten day trek. They were with an organization called Where There Be Dragons (http://wheretherebedragons.com) whose aim is to promote cross-cultural exchanges and learning, and so before their trek not only did they see HH Dalai Lama, they got a private 37 minute audience with him.

The homestay owner in Demul

The homestay owner in Demul

One of the guides, a Tibetan who now lives in New York, was so excited by this he knew the exact time they were with him. And of course in keeping with the tradition of most U.S. travelers I meet being from California, the lead guide was from Lower Haight in San Francisco. It really can be a small world meeting someone who lives a mile away from you at over 4,000 meters high in some remote mountain range in the Himalayas.

I arrived to Demul around 5 in the evening. The village coordinator, this guy named Gonpo, worked with me to find a homestay. Owning this distinguished title means he is responsible for helping trekkers find accommodation and for helping them out however they need, and showing them around the village if they like. I wouldn’t consider myself a picky traveler, but the first homestay he showed me was just not doing it for me.

Om Mane Padme Hum

Om Mane Padme Hum

The mattress was on the floor (no problem) but upon closer inspection there was dirt on the sheets. Add to that the semi-cold nature of the owner and I just wasn’t feeling it. Gonpo took me to another homestay up the hill a bit which I wasn’t too psyched about since I had already walked several hours that day, but the homestay turned out to be well worth it.

Moments after setting my bags down in my room, the owner brought me chai and a healthy snack of roasted barley with brown sugar. It was a small mountain of a portion and by the time dinner rolled around I was still not too hungry. Luckily he was taking his time cooking, and so I hung out with him in the kitchen while he prepared the standard thali. He gave me the tv remote control and I scrolled through a hundred satellite tv channels. It’s pretty impressive that all the way in these remote villages the locals can get such good tv, and by good I mean the quality of the reception, not the content. But in the end I handed back the remote as I didn’t really feel like watching anything, and he put it on what everyone likes to watch, Hindi music videos.

His mother sat with us and she was playing with her prayer beads and mumbling the “Om Mane Padme Hum” mantra over and over and over under her breath. She left the kitchen for about an hour to head up to the worship room.

Dynamite from above

Dynamite from above

Shortly thereafter I could hear her chanting loudly and banging away on a drum. When she joined us again after, she was still playing with her prayer beads and chanting her mantra.

The food was excellent and we were joined by his wife, her sister and his nephew, a 15 year old monk from down the road. Unfortunately I couldn’t engage in much conversation as no one spoke English and my Spitian is still in its early development stages.

The next morning I decided to get an early start because I wanted to make it to Dhangkar, which would be a seven to eight hour trek. The owner (I wish I could recall his name) made me chapatis and omelette, and then wrapped up a few extra chapatis for me to take on the road. I filled up both of my water bottles with boiled water, took some pictures of massive piles of cow dung outside the kitchen and then made my way back onto the path. I ran into Gonpo on my way out of town which was good as he explained the shortcut I needed to take.

The third and final day was pretty much straight down hill all the way to the river. I was thankful the whole time that I wasn’t going up this hill and that I had done the hardest part on the first day. Much better that way.

Cute kid from Lahlung

Cute kid from Lahlung

I ran into the American group again shortly after I began. They had camped in a nearby field and had to deal with the rain that had fallen all night. I slept so well that night I didn’t even know it had rained. Suckas.

We were rocked by a blast of dynamite coming from above where they must have been building a highway. Ten minutes earlier and we would have been right in the line of the rock fall that started raining down. I always catch shit when I talk this way, but I’ll say it anyway. “In America, we would have made sure the path below was sectioned off so no one would be injured.” It just makes sense. The guides from the group began whistling and hollering to let the people up above know we were down here. I’m not sure if it helped or not but I didn’t hear the next round of dynamite until we were well past the rock slide area.

We parted ways shortly after as I was heading down to the river and they climbing around the mountain to a nearby village, Rama. My plan was to get to Lahlung, the next village and then hopefully going from there to Dhangkar. I got a bit unclear as to which path to take once I got down to the river but luckily there was a pack of cargo mules up ahead and so I ran to catch up and asked one of the herders (mule guides?) for directions.

Lahlung is a big village by Spiti Valley standards. There are probably fifty or so households and lots of green fields where they grow their wheat and other crops. It was around noon when I arrived and the sun was shining full force. I knew I wasn’t going to stay the night here but I still wanted to have a look around.

I began chatting with a woman washing her pots and pans outside her home and she invited me in for a chai. Luckily I had some biscuits on me so I could offer her and her daughters something in return.

Cows and goats coming home after a day in the field

Cows and goats coming home after a day in the field

The children of Lahlung all have this booger affliction where there is always an active running layer of snot lingering above their upper lip, precariously resting upon a caked layer of dry snot beneath. But they’re also really friendly and wanting me to take their picture. “Photo! Photo!” I would take their photo and the moment they hear the shutter ‘click’ they are running over to look at the picture. They each point at their own picture and laugh.

I made my way up to the gompa which is always at the highest point of the village only to find that it was locked. The one monk in the village was not there at that moment. I had already seen enough gompas and decided to just get back on the road. I later heard it was a beautiful gompa as everything inside was carved from wood, and not the usual paintings and statues from the other gompas.

In a strange synchronicity, I decided to walk on the auto road for the first time during the trek, as the path through the hill didn’t seem so well defined and a couple locals had suggested I take this way. Half an hour later, I see a blue car approaching me. I walk over to the side to wait for it to pass but instead it stops just in front of me. I look at the car and inside was my Kaza family, Marni, Lindsay and Penpa. How random. They were coming from Dhangkar and were on their way to Lahlung and then Tabo. We made plans to meet up in Tabo the next day. The villages are small enough here that saying you’ll see someone in a town is enough. No need to make much more elaborate plans than that.

I arrived Dhangkar around 6 p.m., tired and hungry. There is a thousand year old gompa here that is a UNESCO World Heritage Site. I followed a monk inside and sat with him a while as he did his daily evening puja (ceremony). Sitting on the ground with a large drum in front of him, incense burning in the corner, he begins chanting something I have no idea what, alternately clashing two cymbals together and banging on the drum. I donated some money and headed out to see more of the gompa. I get to talking to a 34 year old monk dressed in his traditional robes but with a bright yellow sweater on top to shield himself from the cold. And wouldn’t you know it, he invites me into his kitchen for a chai.

I eventually, finally dragged myself away from the gompa and walked over to a homestay on the other side of town. By other side of town I mean on the other side of the small valley which is Dhangkar. I had wanted to stay in the new monastery that HH Dalai Lama had just inaugurated two days earlier after his talks in Kaza, but the rooms were all full. Shortly after checking into the homestay, the son, Anil knocked on my door and asked for my help. Turns out there was a goat who was drinking too much of his mom’s milk and so he needed my help to hold the goat while he tied a little piece of wood in his mouth that I guess prevents them from drinking. The goat was quite calm the whole time which was good since Anil had some trouble getting the thing to stay tied and I certainly didn’t have much advice to offer. He finally got the thing tied and we released the goat who immediately took off into my room and jumped on my bed. When Anil tried to grab him he just ran in circles around the room with Anil chasing him before he ran out of the room completely.

As Anil and I were walking to the village shop, we heard a man yelling from the far end of the valley. Turns out this was the call for that night’s town meeting. The meetings are impromptu, and held whenever something needs to be discussed. Each home has one representative and Anil was his home’s representative. I asked if I could join and he said I could but that I wouldn’t really understand so much. Had I not been so tired I would have pressed on but by that point I was happy to just rest in my room and wait for a YAT (yet another thali) dinner. This time it was a bit different as Anil’s dad (the chef of the home) added soybeans to the subji which made for an interesting change of pace.

I definitely got the sense that Dhangkar is not as shanti (peaceful) as the other villages I had passed through. I think it is the influence of the much greater number of Western travelers coming through Dhangkar, most probably going there for the UNESCO gompa. The locals seemed a bit more rushed and certainly not as relaxed as I had seen. Anil seemed a bit restless and I learned that he really wants to travel (France would be his first choice) but he doesn’t make nearly enough to afford a flight. I suggested that he could sell a lot of the yak wool and sheep wool products that they make in the village for a lot bigger profit if he could find a way to sell it online. I offered to help him and took some pictures of some rugs, in case we ended up putting these things for sale on ebay. As a way to gauge his true interest in this project, I told him to email me with projected shipping costs to the U.S. and Europe once he got that info from the post office. It’s been a week and I still haven’t gotten an email so we’ll see.

Another local I met just outside the gompa seemed to be even more unhappy. I asked him how he was doing and his response was “Not good.” Fair enough. I asked why not and he replied “because I am still living in Dhangkar.” He was well dressed with a button up shirt, clean slacks and a black leather jacket and drove a car, which in the valley is a luxury most people don’t have. And yet he was probably one of the unhappiest people I met during my trek. I guess if you see lots of Westerners coming through your town and hearing their stories, you would probably want to go and visit their countries too.

The following morning I ate breakfast with Anil then walked with his dad straight downhill for about thirty minutes until we got to the main road. My trek was over and I was ready to head back to Kaza and reclaim my 70 liter bag and then move on to Tabo to meet up with my family.

And just in case I was beginning to think I was no longer in India, I waited for the bus that someone had told me arrived at 9:30, another told me at 10 and another told me at 11. That’s India for you. Three answers, three different times. I was at the bus stop by 9 and by 10:30 I still hadn’t seen a bus so the next car driving by, I stuck my thumb out, asked the driver “Kaza?” and then hopped into the front seat of a pickup truck where there were already two other passengers. I don’t think the other two were too happy by the addition of me and my bag, especially the guy to my right who now had to sit with the gear shift precariously between his legs. Every time we went into third gear the gear shift pulled within an inch of his groin and he’d slide up just a bit higher in his seat.

I’m not sure why but I had begun to think that maybe this remote area of India was isolated enough to be immune from the uncoordinatedness that is so commonplace with the main heartland of India. I guess I was wrong.

Does that make me cra-zay? Possibly.





When empty is good…or…3 days with HH Dalai Lama

26 07 2009

It’s a mystery to me
We have a greed
With which we have agreed
When you think you have to want more than you need
Until you have it all you won’t be freed

Spiti Valley is a remote, almost isolated region in the north-east of the Indian state of Himachal Pradesh, about 100 km from the Tibetan border. The valley is quiet, road traffic is minimal and villagers live off the land and do not have much need to venture beyond their homes. The capital village (not city or town, but village) is sleepy Kaza. But for three days, Kaza was buzzing as His Holiness the Dalai Lama flew in for a visit.

Police officer keeping the peace

Police officer keeping the peace

The day he arrived, the main road of Kaza was lined on one side with thousands of people, mostly Spitian and Tibetan families and Buddhist monks and nuns. Chai vendors who always seem to find a way to sell their chai everywhere in India were also present, setting up temporary chai stalls just across from the gompa (monastery).

Security was very high and Indian police with their AK-47s were everywhere, amongst the crowds and perched on top of roofs nearby. One major downside to all this security was that no cameras were allowed into the gompa while HH Dalai Lama was there so I didn’t get any pictures of him.

Burning incense

Burning incense

I pressed my luck and brought my big SLR with me up to the front gate figuring I could talk my way into bringing it in. No luck. I ended up having to go all the way back to my guest house to drop it off and then returning.

He came to Kaza inaugurate the new gompa, to share some knowledge about emptiness and impermanence and to initiate those who wished to be into the way of Avalokitshevara, the Buddha of Compassion. The most recognized Buddhist mantra, “Om Mane Padme Om”, is a mantra from this Buddha that brings compassion to those who say the mantra.

Buddhist nuns awaiting His Holiness's arrival

Buddhist nuns awaiting His Holiness's arrival

Being initiated into this mantra allows the chanter of the mantra to gain the benefits of it. Which makes me wonder what happened to all those times I’ve said that mantra before this initiation.

Spitian culture and language is similar to Tibetan culture and language and the primary religion in the valley is Tibetan Buddhism. Not surprisingly, it seemed that every Spitian from the valley came to Kaza for these talks. Add to that a couple of hundred Westerners and you’ve got a village where all the hotels are fully booked and power outages are happening every night as the power grid in Kaza wasn’t designed to handle so many people.

Family waiting alongside the road

Family waiting alongside the road

HH Dalai Lama had a few hundred tents set up au gratis (as opposed to au gratin) near the river for those who couldn’t find accommodation or couldn’t afford it. I had heard that he really takes care of practicalities for those coming to see him talk and it really did seem like it.

As we sat and listened to him talk, monks would be walking by serving butter tea and bread. If you’ve never had butter tea before then consider yourself lucky.

Welcome HHDL!

Welcome HHDL!

It is more like a salty broth than tea. It is an oily white concoction that looks somewhat appetizing till you take a sip and wish you could Ctrl-Z that last action. Luckily my friend Tamsin loved the stuff so I’d keep giving her mine as I continued trying it each day thinking that it would somehow be better.

I met up with Tamsin in my shared jeep ride from Manali to Kaza, along with Marni and Lindsay, two sisters from the States, and Penpa, a 28 year old Tibetan guy who somehow is always smiling and laughing, and this after I’ve been traveling with him for a couple of weeks now.

Buddhist monk

Buddhist monk

We all clicked really well as the group is quite positive and easy going and our self-dubbed “family” ended up sharing one big room during our stay in Kaza.

Each morning around 7 a.m. a couple of us would head out early to the gompa (monastery) to try and save a few places for the group. Locals and Tibetans had the prime location right in front HH Dalai Lama while the foreigners were off to the side, with a good view of his left side. So many locals turned out that they began moving into the foreigners section and soon outnumbered all of us.

The main gompa

The main gompa

The talks were all in Tibetan but thanks to this advanced technology called the “radio” and a live translator sitting among us, we were able to tune our radios into 97.9 FM and catch the live translation.

While we were waiting for the talks to begin, a monk was chanting “Om Mane Padme Om” rapidly and repeatedly over the speaker system. I thought there was a 50-50 chance he would achieve enlightenment that morning with the pace at which he was chanting.

His helicopter makes a loop overhead

His helicopter makes a loop overhead

Around 9 a.m. HH Dalai Lama would arrive and we all stood as he made his way to the front of his throne, bent down to rest on his knees and did his three prostrations to the throne. Once he was seated then the ritual was for people to do three prostrations to him before taking our seats. For someone in his 70’s, he is still a pretty fit man. He managed to do the prostrations and climbed into his throne on his own strength. And he spoke with a strong and at times animated voice.

But the best part about seeing HH Dalai Lama speak, even not understanding Tibetan, is just hearing his infectious laugh. It comes unannounced and can come at any time.

Monks and nuns line the street

Monks and nuns line the street

During the initiation ceremony, as he was saying his prayers and chanting a mantra, in every way a serious ceremony, there was a pause, and then you just hear this “heh heh heh”. And that is just the start. He continues a few more times. “Heh heh heh,” and you can’t help but laugh too. He’s got a childlike, but not childish, way about him. When he was not talking, such as when the Hindi translator was repeating what was just said to the audience, HH Dalai Lama would be gently rocking back and forth or side to side in his throne, looking out at the crowd.
Buddhist monk in traditional headdress

Buddhist monk in traditional headdress

Sometimes he would reach into his robe, pull out a tissue and wipe his glasses, dry his eyes or blow his nose. Then when the Hindi translator was through and it was time to speak again, he would in an almost casual way just lean towards the microphone and say “Oh yeah. Okay.”

When all the pre-talking rites and rituals were completed, we sat down, opened up our notebooks and tuned our radios in to 97.9 FM. “Relax, enjoy the bread and enjoy the tea. And listen to me also. Heh heh heh.” And with that we began the teachings.

“What is I?”
“Does I have a beginning or not?”
“Does I have an end or not?”

Those were the questions he began with. He compared the answers to these questions as they would be answered from the perspectives of the different major religions in the world. At no point did HH Dalai Lama every claim that one religion was more correct than another, but instead encouraged people to follow the religions of our parents but with knowledge and harmony of other religions.

“What is I?” You can also ask “What is this computer?” The point of the exercise is to try and identify the one thing, one piece, that you can say “Aha, that is I, or that is the computer.” You’ll find you can’t.

Things come into existence through mere designation. Analyze any object and you’ll find that you can’t find it. Here is an example. Let’s say you’re taking a walk on a mountain. You pick up a beautiful rock, then you throw it into the river below.

Wake me up when he gets here

Wake me up when he gets here

Is this still a mountain? What if you throw 100 more rocks of the mountain? What if a billion rocks are thrown off the mountain till there is just a handful left? At what point does it stop being a mountain? When people stop calling it a mountain.

This is the foundation of emptiness, one of the final teachings of Buddhism. The notion of emptiness in Buddhism basically means that nothing in this world exists on its own, that nothing exists independently of anything else. We designate things as ‘a mountain’, ‘a car’, or ‘I’ because we have this notion of duality, that there is an independent I and each object we see is also independent. But this is a completely false view.

Take the computer you’re using right now as an example. It is made up of many parts, each of which was built and assembled by a machine or a person.

Monks and nuns lining up with their kattas

Monks and nuns lining up with their kattas

Before that, an engineer designed how this computer should be built, and he probably used a white board to draw up his ideas. (Note, I am making a strong assumption that the engineers who designed your computer were males. I should know given the ratio of males/females in my computer engineering classes in college). The white board itself was probably made in a factory and includes chemicals that were created in a lab by a scientist who drove his Ford Escort to work. The Ford Escort was assembled by people and machines in Dayton, Ohio. Etc. Etc. So all of those things played a role in you having this computer in front of you.

By the way I’m probably not doing justice to how HH Dalai Lama explained this and even as I’m reading through mine and Lindsay’s notes I’m having trouble explaining it, so apologies if this doesn’t make too much sense.

Buddhist monk

Buddhist monk

It is difficult stuff to comprehend! But that’s what I like about Buddhism. It is very analytical, based on analyzing and understanding your own experiences, your thoughts, behaviors and emotions. In many ways it is more science than religion.

The other thing he spent a lot of time talking about was attachment and impermanence, that nothing in this world is eternal and yet we cling to everything as though they will last forever. We cling to our material possessions, our relationships and even more importantly, to our lives, as though we expect them to be here for all time. Another exercise he had us try was to find anything in this world that is impermanent, something that will never change.

Two young monks sharing some Fanta

Two young monks sharing some Fanta

I was tempted to mention the fact that the Detroit Lions total of zero Super Bowl championships was a number that would probably never change in a million lifetimes. But other than that, you’ll find it impossible.

Everything changes. That George Foreman grill you got for Christmas two years ago probably looks a lot different now than it did when you unwrapped it. And twenty years from now it’ll probably be in some scrap heap in New Jersey. Your new car is no longer new soon after you leave the lot. Nothing doesn’t change.

And from all of this we are to extrapolate that yes, even we, with these super duper bodies of ours are impermanent. Even with our Kirkland Signature daily-multi-vitamin supplements and Cod Liver fish oil tablets and our three-times-a-week gym routine, we’re still going to fade away.

Warming up the band

Warming up the band

So if this is all true, then why do we have such strong attachments to things, to people, to our own lives even? It is a futile exercise. On the flip side, I think there is a danger here when one begins thinking that if nothing lasts then that means that nothing matters. That is completely opposite to the point HH Dalai Lama is trying to make it. We should appreciate what we have in each moment when we have it but when it is gone, we should let it go and not get caught up trying to bring it back.

This is a really hard thing to do for many reasons. We live in a world where we are measured by the mountains of material possessions we have. We become so attached to these things and to the perception they help us project of ourselves to others that we fight tooth and nail to keep the things we have. If someone scratches your car door, steals your camera, spills your beer, blood pressure rises accordingly.

On a side note, there is something about long term traveling that makes you stop caring so much about your material possessions. I think it has to do with the fact that all of your belongings are in your backpack and so you end up having way less things than you would at home. And you begin to realize that you don’t really need so much to get by or be happy in this world (just an iPhone and some Indian curry is good enough for me). When you begin accumulating too many things, you can physically feel the burden of the extra weight on your back. At home you simply shove them into your storage closet that has become a veritable Jenga-game-in-waiting and forget about it.

There were three days of talks and I’ve only tried to capture the general idea of what he spoke about. It isn’t the hardest stuff in the world to understand but it is difficult to absorb and just writing it out here has been a good challenge in recalling everything we heard.

We did have one very curious happening. The day before the Avalokitshevara initiation we were given strands of kusha grass to place under our pillow and mattress at night. It was intended to keep away bad dreams and perhaps also give us pleasant dreams. The intention is to basically protect us during the couple of days of the initiation. The next morning as we were walking to the gompa, I asked Lindsay and Marni if they had any dreams. Marni, like me, hadn’t had any dreams that she could remember but Lindsay had a dream where she had visited many different Buddhist temples.

HH Dalai Lama began his talks that morning talking about the kusha grass and the interpretation of the dreams. The first thing he said was “If you had any dreams about visiting temples, then that is a good dream.” We were floored. This was exactly Lindsay’s dream. But before we could get too excited about it, he reminded all of us that “good or bad dreams, remember that they are gone now so don’t put too much importance on them.”

In other words, don’t get attached.





Varanasi – the city of light

12 06 2009

I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that’s real
The needle tears a hole
The old familiar sting
Try to kill it all away
But I remember everything

Varanasi. The city where people come to die. Or if you’re Western like Michelle, Freek and me, it is where you come to get stomach problems and lie around writhing in discomfort for a couple of days in your hot hotel room, lying on your bed under a fan spinning around and around that is doing nothing more than recycling the hot air throughout the room.

Children from our alley

Children from our alley

And all you want is a moment of coolness but you know that it is just too damn hot outside for there to be any chance at all of that. But there is a break when a cow right outside your window belts out a deep guttural ‘MEEENNNNHHHH’ and you laugh and remember what a different world it is in India.

Welcome to Varanasi in the dead heat of the summer where in our five days here it reached over 115F every day. It is one of the oldest cities in the world and a city that grew because of its sacred place in the religious ceremonies of not just Hindus but all other religions.

A Varanasi local

A Varanasi local

It is said that anyone that dies in Varanasi will attain enlightenment and be freed from eternal suffering and so will not be born again. But as my friend Cesar says “I’m kind of enjoying this life so I’m not sure I wouldn’t want to come back.” Well said, Cesar. But the people who come here to live out their final years living amongst one another in small homes would probably not be of the same opinion. Even Buddha thought it was a cool place to go to as he walked 250km to get here after attaining enlightenment in nearby Bodhgaya. Sarnath, 10km north of Varanasi, is where Buddha gave his first of thousands of teachings to his five disciples.

Life on the Ganges

Life on the Ganges

And it’s not just popular with people. Animals love it too. Cows, water buffaloes, dogs, chickens and goats roam freely throughout the city. It’s amazing to see how closely the animals all hang out among each other, although not really with each other. I have to yet to see a chicken and a cow going for a friendly stroll down to the Ganges. Dogs, however, do seem to hang out with the cows and follow them wherever they go, as if they’re protecting them. In colder weather dogs will literally sleep on the cows for the added warmth.

Cows are by far at the highest end of the status ladder. Try to take the horns off a cow and you’re looking at seven years in prison. Bulls live a great life here.

Washing the body in the Ganges

Washing the body in the Ganges

They just walk around, or more accurately stand around as they seem to do most of the time, and rummage through anything they want for food. One bull in particular is fond of upending trash cans at night to search for a late night snack. Try stopping that bull. During the heat of the day you’ll find families of water buffaloes and a few straggling cows all kicking it in the Ganges. During the day you’ll see the water buffaloes just chilling out in the Ganges, their bodies completely submerged in the water with just their heads above the surface. And just before sunset you’ll see a family of ten or so water buffaloes strolling down the main road on their way back home after a hard day’s work, effectively blocking half of the road.

Morning life on the Ganges

Morning life on the Ganges

Varanasi is bordered by the Ganges river to the east and the Ganges is where everything is at. There are over 370 ghats leading down to the river and it would take over three hours by row boat to go from the first ghat to the last one. Each ghat has a name and some are more popular than others. Some are used by people from a particular area of the country. And a couple of them are the burning ghats where dead bodies are brought within hours of death to be burned.

When someone dies it is an involved ceremony as is everything in India. First, the body is washed with honey, fennel, oils and other things to clean the chakras. Then the body is placed on a bed (similar to a stretcher) where it is covered by a bright colored sheet that is pulled to the corners so you can’t really see the shape of the body underneath.

The burning ghat

The burning ghat

Four men then carry the body down to the river to give it a final washing, chanting mantras the entire walk down. Each of the men takes five drinks of the holy river water. (If I took even just one drink of the Ganges I would probably not be here right now.)

The body is then laid on a bed of wood close to the river and then covered with more wood, in total over 300 kg of wood for one body. The male members of the family are all near the body while all this is happening. The eldest son shaves all his hair on his head, face and underarms in mourning. Hindus will keep a lone lock of hair in the upper back of the head; think of a ponytail that’s six inches too high. Females are not allowed at the burning for two reasons. First, because they get too emotional (the literal explanation I was given). Second, because in the past they sometimes lost all control and would throw themselves into the fire and no one wants that.

Preparing the fire

Preparing the fire

The local who was telling me about all this proudly pointed out how stoic all the men looked and that they were actually happy because the deceased was going to a better place. Bright orange flower wreaths are laid across the body and from what I could tell they end up as a floral snack for the goats lingering nearby.

I’m sure I’m leaving out some parts of the involved ceremony but soon after all of this it is time to light the pyre. One of the most important Hindu Gods, Shiva, has an eternal fire that is burning all day and night and that is being tended by someone at all times of day. This is the source of the fire that is used to burn the bodies. A small bed of straw is lit from Shiva’s fire and is brought to the body. The eldest son carries the burning bed of straw under the body, walking around it five times. The number five appears in many places in Hindu ceremonies and it’s used to represent Earth, Wind, Fire, Water and Spirit.

Two birds get a free ride

Two birds get a free ride

The body burns for around three hours. Surprisingly I did not smell any ‘meaty’ odors coming from the fire as I had heard I would. I asked a local about why that is and he said it is because “Lord Shiva’s fire cleans out all the bad smells.” Someone needs to market this fire in the U.S.

Alas, not everyone gets to burn in Varanasi. Monks, children, lepers and snake bite victims are among those that do not get burned because it is believed they have already been kissed by Shiva. Instead, a large stone is tied around their body and they are dropped into the Ganges. One can only imagine how many bodies are lying at the bottom of the river, although as I was witness to, I don’t believe the bodies stay intact for too long before they become food.

Dog eating child's hand

Dog eating child's hand

A dog near the river was happily playing with a dead child’s hand that must have floated up from the bottom of the river, trying to separate the hand from the tendon. Finally succeeding in removing the tendon, he put the hand in his mouth and gulped it down in one go.

This is Varanasi, where you sense that things have been going on this way for a long, long time and you can feel the weight of the city, of all the bodies that have passed through here over all the centuries. Sunrise finds hundreds, if not thousands, of people starting their day on the ghats with a bath or a swim, or washing their clothes, or getting the fire wood ready.

And as a traveler through here, the closest you can get to being part of the action is taking a dip yourself into the murky, green, questionable, mysterious waters of the Ganges to wash away all of your sins. It is a tempting offer.

The amazing water buffalo

The amazing water buffalo

Our hotel owner said he no longer goes in because it is too dirty, too much pollution from upstream, not to mention all the dead bodies and everyone doing their thing in the river each morning. In the end, I said f*ck it. As we were heading back to our hotel after a sunrise boat trip, I asked our boat driver to head to the middle of the river where the current was strongest, thinking that would be the best bet for where the cleanest water would be.

Freek was the first one in. I got down to my boxers and jumped in right after, half expecting my skin to melt off my bones the instant I touched the water. But it didn’t. In fact it felt fine.

A Sadhu on the ghats

A Sadhu on the ghats

If anything it was maybe a bit too warm. I went all the way under and stayed in long enough to make sure all my sins got cleansed, climbed back on board the boat and rinsed myself off with a two liter of water I had brought along just for this purpose. A week later and no problems to report.

And why would there be? It’s not like this is the first time someone jumped into the Ganges. People have been doing that here for a long, long time.





Happy Laos New Year

17 04 2009

sip!
kao!
paet!
jet!
hok!
haa!
sii!
saam!
song!
neung!

Sabaidee Pimai!

Forget countdowns.
Forget fireworks.
And bring your watergun.

Welcome to the Laos New Year celebration which is the celebration of the Buddhist New Year. It is every April 14, 15 and 16 and is observed in Laos, Cambodia and Thailand.

The way it is celebrated is with water. Lots and lots of water. There are water fights everywhere. In Vangvieng, where I was on the first day of the celebrations, we (myself, Anthony and my new Dutch friend Freek) armed ourselves with massive waterguns and marched down to the main road in this small, old-Western-cowboy resembling town. All along the road people were hanging out in front of their shops and restaurants splashing buckets of water or firing waterguns at every passing car, bike, motorcycle and person. My personal favorite targets were dry tourists.

There were about a dozen of us who had been on this street for a couple of hours and we soon got this gang mentality where anytime a new person or group of people would start walking down the street we would storm them in full force making sure they were drenched. And in arguably the most promising display of diplomatic relations in the Middle East this millennium, an Israeli group on the other side of the street from where I was would whistle over to me, “Hey, Iraq!” and nod in the direction where they needed my support in battle.

We thought Vangvieng was crazy. But it was nothing compared to Vientiane, the capital city of Laos where he took a four hour bus to the next day. While Vangvieng’s water fights were mostly tourists, the whole city of Vientiane was involved and no one was spared. Everyone was out on the two main roads with blaring music playing out of massive speakers parked in front of beauty salons and hand woven rug stores. Everywhere. And if you guessed that the most popular Laos New Year songs would be Akon’s “Right Na Na Na” and Flo.Rida’s “Low”, then you win $1 million.

The second day of the New Year’s celebration, our first day in Vientiane, we hung out for several hours in front of Sabaidee restaurant which is on a corner on the main drag, terrorizing the entire intersection. While locals seem to have some unspoken rules, like only dousing those who walk by you, not dousing policemen, or just splashing a few drops on the elderly, Anthony, as always, took the whole thing to a new level.

Everyone became a target. An elderly couple taking a dry, friendly stroll across the street. Anthony chased the poor old lady down and she was doused. A couple of backpackers just arriving into town, big, heavy bags on their back trying to get oriented to this new city. Happy Laos New Year. They tried to run away but it was fruitless. They got drenched. I’ve never seen grown men run away so scared. It was classic. And the ultimate target was unloading a bucket of water into the open window of a car or bus driving by. If this was a video game, that move would be worth at least 100 points.

Pickup trucks with people loaded in the back would cruise slowly down the main drag to give everyone on the streets a chance to douse them. And the artillery in Vientiane was more advanced. Gone, for the most part, were the guns. Bring on the buckets and little water bags and the ultimate in water warfare, colored water. My clothes are now colored red, green, black, yellow and orange. We hopped on back one of the trucks and rode around for an hour with a family who spoke no English but we quickly bonded as well-seasoned war veterans. At one point we were getting absolutely drilled by no less than thirty people standing on the sidewalk pelting us with these little water bags, which as I found out can sting the hell out of you if they are tied tight and hit you full on.

There’s something fun about dumping whole buckets of water on people and having it done to you too. Besides one grumpy German guy who may be the most miserable guy on the planet, everyone took it very lightly. We were talking about how back at home, in the States, Belgium or Holland, it would start off civil but after people got drunk people’s egos would get the better of them and fights would break out. People were getting quite drunk here too but not a single bout of violence or ill will broke out.

Except when towards the end of the last day, done with the water fights and wearing my last dry tshirt walking to dinner, I pleaded with this group of Laos teenage girls to spare me. They smiled sweetly and said Ok. I’m a sucker. As soon as I turned my back on them, WHOOSH!, I was drenched again.

Happy Laos New Year!